What am I doing wrong? Are MFM threesomes scary for guys?

So, as many of you know I've been talking for over a year now about having a threesome with my husband and another man. For those of you that don't know, we've been there many, many times with other women and have loved it. We discussed giving the MFM threesome a shot and decided to go for it about a year ago. I think I'd enjoy it and my husband says he loves to show me off and for him that would be the ultimate. Not to mention he is a very visually aroused man, as most are, and would get to see me in action from points of view that he's never seen me in before. I guess you could say is just one of the many things on our sexual bucket list!

Over this past year we've approached 3-4 of my husbands good friends with the idea and they seem to run like a little school girl who's just been offered a piece of candy from a stranger...lol. These are guys that have made comments, flirted, and shown interest before, but when it came right down to it they shy'd away.

Honestly, it makes me question if there is something wrong with me, is it our approach, or is it just the situation in general that freaks them out. I would love to be able to do photos and videos for my website with two guys but in that case they would have to sign model releases and everything, so I know the chances of that are probably even less than that of a threesome with a friend. For me, the first time I do it, I just think I would be more comfortable with someone I know and already have a comfort level with. I mean, I'm sure I'll be nervous either way and when things get going everything will fall into place, but I need to be comfortable the first time, right?

So, if you were approached by a close friend and asked to join him in fucking his wife or letting his wife give you a blowjob, what would you do? Do you have any advice for me guys, or girls?

Kisses,
Realiti